Pres. Buhari Denies Receiving $300,000 from Dasuki

Who will get named next in the #DasukiGate arms deal saga? There are so many rumours about certain people’s involvement floating around.

And this time, President Buhari’s name has somehow come up, as it is being alleged that he received $300,000 from ex National Security Adviser,  Sambo Dasuki. 

The presidency has denied the allegations via the following statement, Vanguard reports:

Our attention has been drawn to reports making the rounds, especially on internet-based media, that President Muhammadu Buhari received $300,000.00 and up to five armoured SUVs from the Office of the National Security Adviser in the aftermath of the attack on his convoy in Kaduna last year.

We unequivocally deny that President Buhari received $300,000.00 or any monetary compensation whatsoever from the Jonathan Presidency or any of its officials, in the aftermath of that attack, or at any other time since then.

While it is true that one armoured SUV and one untreated SUV were sent to the President in the aftermath of the attack, the vehicles were in keeping with his entitlements as a former Head of State under the Remuneration of Former Presidents and Heads of State (And other Ancillary Matters) Decree of 1999.

Section 3, Sub Section 1 of that Decree provides that three vehicles will be provided for former heads of state and replaced every four years.

There was therefore nothing untoward, illegal or tending to corruption in former Head of State Buhari and Presidential aspirant, as he then was, receiving vehicles, to which he was statutorily entitled, from the Federal Government of Nigeria.

President Buhari had in keeping with his austere, spartan and frugal disposition shunned most of his entitlements as a former Head of State, but was prevailed upon by his supporters to accept the two vehicles for his personal safety in the aftermath of the dastardly attempt to assassinate him.

It is preposterous to think that the President will allow his acclaimed reputation of honesty and incorruptibility to be tarnished by accepting a questionable monetary compensation from a discredited regime.

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How to let go of Guilt??

Guilt isn’t always a rational thing; it’s a weight that will crush you whether you deserve it or not.

Guilt is the price we pay when our behavior violates one of our learned ideals or beliefs.  The symptoms range from minor emotional discomfort to substantial feelings of self-doubt and despair, and thus it’s one of the most common reasons people seek coaching or therapy, since they can’t let go of the guilt they feel.
Excess guilt is one of the heaviest and unhealthiest weights a person can hold.  It’s like strapping an extra 100+ pounds to your forehead and trying to go about your day.  Fortunately, just as a change in how you approach your body can help shed excess body weight (i.e. eating healthy and exercising), a change in how you approach your thoughts can help you shed excess guilt.
If you feel like you’re carrying around excess guilt right now, here are some simple reminders to help you let go and ease your mind:

1. A guilty, suffering spirit is far more open to love and grace than an uncaring or smug soul.  So, in a backwards way, it’s good news if you’re feeling like you’ve done wrong – it means you actually care to be better than you have been.  And starting now, you can be.
2. Guilt is not a response to other people’s sadness or anger; it’s a response to your own actions or lack thereof, and it can be positive.  If guilt leads to change then it can be useful, since it’s then no longer just guilt but the beginning of knowledge and growth.  That’s the key – channeling your initial feelings of guilt into positive action.  Let the way you feel change the way you live.
3. There’s no reason to feel perpetually guilty for making a sincere mistake.  To make a mistake is to be human.  Mistakes are part of life – everyone makes them, and everyone feels a little guilty sometimes.  But – and this is a BIG BUT – some people learn from their mistakes and some end up making the same ones again and again.  It’s up to you to decide if you’ll learn from your mistakes and use them to your advantage.  (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)
4. If you feel guilty about something you did or didn’t do, don’t be ashamed to apologize.  An apology may seem like a sign of weakness, but having the courage to go up to someone and say “I’m sorry” is a great strength!
5. We’re all a little selfish sometimes.  It’s human nature.  A selfish person can still love someone else, can’t they?  Even when they’ve hurt them and let them down?  The answer is yes, as long a lesson is learned and not deliberately repeated.
6. Every one of us is guilty in some way – for all the good we didn’t do – the kind words never spoken, and the good deeds left undone.  We can’t change that now – the past is behind us – but we can still make the best use of today and every day going forward.  Yes, perhaps there’s a lot more we all could have done, but we just have to let the guilt remind us to do better next time.
7. Some people like passing guilt and blame on to others.  Beware of this.  It’s strange the way someone who wants to play the blame game and find you guilty can pass judgments, tell stories, and actually make you believe in your own guilt, even when you know you’re innocent (or deserve forgiveness).  Beware of this phenomenon and don’t condemn yourself just to satisfy other people’s drama.  (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
8. If you decide to make positive changes, let it be out of generosity and respect for yourself and others, not because you fear guilt or retribution in any way.
9. When you think EVERYONE is looking at you, it’s usually just you looking at yourself.  Understand this.  Understand that the fear of judgment is the mark of excessive guilt and the burden of insecurity.
10. If someone says they hate you, whatever the reason, everything they say about you after that is more or less meaningless.  Hate is irrational – when hatred judges, the verdict is always guilty.  The same is true when we hate ourselves for something – we can’t possibly vindicate ourselves and grow from the experience.  The bottom line is that we may feel guilt, give reasons, and even have excuses, but in the end it’s an act of cowardice to not give yourself another chance.  It’s time to show yourself some love and respect.
11. If you can’t reconcile things with yourself, and you don’t feel ready to talk it out with someone else, write it down.  Write your heart out!  So often when we’re feeling guilty we’re in a state of denial.  We’ve denied, trivialized or distorted our own experiences and feelings.  Writing is an important path for healing because it gives you the opportunity to sort out your thoughts and define your own reality.  You can say: “This did happen to me.  It was that bad.  It was a terrible mistake.  I’ve grown from it.  I was – and am – worthy of my own love and forgiveness.”
12. You may have lots of moments that aren’t too bad, and yet there’s always something you’re struggling with, or feeling guilty about.  You may just assume you need to try harder, but you find it difficult to sustain that level of effort.  If that sounds at all familiar, it’s time to let go of control, at least a little bit.  It’s time to stop feeling guilty about not being able to control the uncontrollable.

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The Interview???

Has it ever occurred to you what life brings after death...?? So many times I try to ponder over this same question. The true answer is Guilt !!

Yes Guilt !! of what haven't been done or what have to be  done.
What comes after death is just suffering...as some persons will end up being in the discomfort place arranged by the creator...or Maybe Paradise as our religious scholars taught us..But One thing i know have to be done is prepare for death as if you attending an Interview.

An interview is a conversation between two or more people where questions are asked by the interviewer to elicit facts or statements from the interviewee.
Alright lets bring it to real existence..the Interviewer which happens to be the creator and the Interviewee which could be any of us.. 

What are the expected questions we all need to evaluate ourselves with ??

Believe it or not, the kind of questions you ask determine the kind of life you lead. That’s because your questions trigger its own set of answers, which lead to certain emotions, which then lead to certain actions (or in-actions), followed by results. If you ask yourself limiting questions, you’ll get limited results. If you ask yourself mind-opening, forwarding questions, you’ll gain a lot more out of them.
Some people like to ask questions like “Why am I so unlucky?”, “What if I had done this earlier?” and “Why am I always in such a situation?”. Because these questions are backward looking, the answers you get with them are naturally dis-empowering. On the other hand, questions like “What can I learn from this experience?”, “What can I do differently move forward?” and “What am I grateful for?” are empowering. They provoke you and get you thinking, putting you on the path to a better life.
Okay back to the evaluating questions...the expected questions one should evaluate him/herself with are the following: 
Here they are:

1. Who are you?
2. What are you passionate about?
3. What are the achievements you are most proud of?
4. What are you most grateful for in life? (Day 14 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program is about expressing gratitude.)
5. What are the most important things to you in life?
6. How would you describe yourself?
7. What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody? (On Day 15 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program, you will identify your values.)
8. Do you love yourself?
9. … Why or Why not?
10. How can you love yourself more today?
11. What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?
12. Look at your life now. Are you living the life of your dreams?
13. If you have one year left to live, what would you do?
14. If you have one month left to live, what would you do?
15. If you have one week left to live, what would you do?
16. If you have one day left to live, what would you do?
17. If you have an hour left to live, what would you do?
18. If you have one minute left to live, what would you do?
    
19. What would you do today if there is no more tomorrow?
20. What are the biggest things you’ve learned in life to date?
21. What advice would you give to yourself 3 years ago?
    
22. If you are yourself 1 year from the future, how would you advise the you now? (On Day 22 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days Program, we travel to the future to give advice to the us today.)
23. Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?
24. What are you busy with today? Will this matter 1 year from now? 3 years? 5 years?
25. What are your Quadrant 2 tasks?
26. What opportunities are you looking for?
27. How can you create these opportunities?
28. What are your biggest goals and dreams?
29. What’s stopping you from pursuing them? …Why? How can you overcome them?
30. If you are to do something for free for the rest of your life, what would you want to do?
31. What would you do if you cannot fail; if there are no limitations in money, resources, time or networks?
    
32. What do you want to achieve 1 year from now?
33. … 3 years?
34. … 5 years?
35. … 10 years?
36. How important are these goals to you?
37. What if these goals are doubled? Tripled? Magnified by 10? How would you feel? Would you prefer to achieve these or your previous goals?
38. Who are the people who have achieved similar goals? … What can you learn from them?
39. Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? … Why?
40. What’s the top priority in your life right now?
41. What are you doing about it?
42. If you were to die tomorrow, what would be your biggest regret? What can you do now to make sure that doesn’t happen?
43. For every experience you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?
44. How can you do this better the next time?
45. If you have 1 million dollars, what will you do with it?
    
46. Do you love your job?
47. What is your ideal career?
48. How can you start creating your ideal career starting today?
49. What is your ideal diet?
50. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal diet?
51. What is your ideal home like?
52. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal home?
53. What is your ideal physical look?
54. What do you need to do to achieve your ideal physical look?
55. What is your ideal life?
56. What can you do to start living your ideal life?
57. What would you want to say to yourself 1 year in the future?
58. … 3 years?
59. … 5 years?
60. … 10 years?
61. What do you fear most in life?
62. Is there anything you are running away from?
63. Are you settling for less than what you are worth? … Why?
64. What is your inner dialogue like? (Day 26 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program is about uncovering your limiting thoughts.)
65. What limiting beliefs are you holding on to?
66. Are they helping you achieve your goals?
67. If not, is it time to let them go?
68. What empowering beliefs can you take on to help you achieve your goals?
69. What bad habits do you want to break?
70. What good habits do you want to cultivate?
71. What are the biggest actions you can take now to create the biggest results in your life?
72. Where are you living right now – the past, future or present?
73. Are you living your life to the fullest right now?
74. What is the meaning of life?
75. What is your purpose in life? Why do you exist? What is your mission?
    
76. How can you make your life more meaningful, starting today?
77. What drives you?
78. What are the times you are most inspired, most motivated, most charged up?
79. What did you do during those times? How can you do more of that starting today?
80. How can you change someone’s life for the better today?
81. Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with?
82. Are these people enabling you or holding you back?
    
83. What qualities do you want to embody? (Refer to Q7: Values and Q11: Ideal Self) Where can you meet people who embody these qualities?
84. Who inspire you the most?
85. How can you be like them?
86. What is your ideal life partner like?
87. Where can you find him/her?
88. How can you get to know him/her?
89. Are you afraid of letting others get close to you?
90. … Why?
    
91. Who is/are the most important person(s) to you in the world?
92. Are you giving them the attention you want to give?
93. How can you spend more time with them starting today?
94. What kind of person do you enjoy spending time with?
95. How can you be this person to others?
96. Who do you want to be like in 1 year?
97. … 3 years?
98. … 5 years?
99. … 10 years?
100. Who are your mentors in life? (formal or informal)
101. What is one thing you’re going to do differently after reading this article?

Written by: Teniola  Adedotun  Michael

Cesc Fabregas - players must justify 'big wages'

Chelsea's players need to justify their "big wages" and start playing like "big players", says Cesc Fabregas.

The Premier League champions are only one point above the relegation zone after Monday's defeat at Leicester, their ninth loss of the season.
After the game, boss Jose Mourinho said his "work was betrayed" by his players.
"If you are a big player and paid like a big player, you must play like a big player and behave like a big player," said Blues midfielder Fabregas.
"I am not saying you can't have a bad season and bad games but the attitude must be spot on.
"We must always be at the top of our games and the behaviour has to be better than what we are seeing right now from every single Chelsea player."

Relegation is a possibility - Nevin

Chelsea are 16th with only 15 points following the defeat by table-topping Leicester.
In Premier League history, when teams have had 15 points from 16 games, they have finished, on average, in 17th position - one place above the drop zone.
Mourinho says he does not believe the Stamford Bridge club are in a relegation battle.

However, former Blues winger Pat Nevin told BBC Radio 5 live that the Portuguese should not "ignore the concept" of going down.
Nevin also said that injuries could make it "even more difficult" to avoid being dragged into a "battle" to avoid the drop.
"You have to be realistic about relegation," he said. "Absolutely do not ignore it. When you lack confidence, that can spread through the team and it all can go against you.
"I don't think they'll go down, but don't bury your head in the sand. It's a possibility, so don't ignore it.
"I didn't think they'd be down there after 16 games. What about 20 games? What about 23 or 24? Then you start thinking about it."
Fabregas, speaking at a Facebook question and answer session, added: "Right now is not the time to think of where we might finish."

Credit :  BBC SPORT